Monday Mush

I love this quote…I have used it in several other parts of different “mushes” throughout the years, but I think it is a “stand alone” quote this time. 

The comparison game is one with only losers….there truly is no way to win.  When we start to see what others have and compare it to us, we will ALWAYS find somewhere that we are being “beaten.”  Someone will have more money, a better house, better kids, or a better car….someone will not struggle with weight, making friends, or jealousy….someone will be a better athlete, cook, or organizer.   There is no way to win.  We are taking their “highlight reel” and comparing it to our bloopers.

The most dreaded problem that we face is making a “super person” to be jealous of….it makes the insecurity problem exponentially worse.  We take a good characteristic of person A, another good part of person B, another good part of person C, and we take the best qualities from another 6 people.  Then, we make this fictitious person in our heads that is ALL of those things at worse.  So now our standard is not just high….it is unrealistic.  So you are guaranteed to lose.

So how do we fix this issue…it seems a part of “who we are.”  I think the best cure is looking at what you have and not what you don’t.   Your new car seems super nice until the next year’s model comes out…the iphone 6 is totally the best…well until the 7 comes out.  We don’t need to view out lives by what we don’t have….we view it by what we do have.  

We are taught to not be selfish…we are taught to look to the needs of others before looking at our own needs.  But, I think we need to be a little more selfish sometimes.  I think we need to focus on ourselves in looking at the good.  What blessings do you have…what brings you joy that you currently have….what qualities do you possess that you are proud of?   I was in Africa several years ago in remote villages that essentially had nothing…truly.  But, they had more joy than most Americans have that are stuck in the rat race. 

This can be something that seems focus on “stuff,” but we also do this with qualities in people.  We need to be careful.  We need to remember that EVERYONE is real and not the person that appear to be just on Facebook or Instagram. 

Thank you for all you do every day! 

Happy Monday!